“Oh. My. God.”
“Oh my God.”
“Oh yes.”
“Keep going.”
“Yes.yes. YES!”
How typical right? A sex columnist writing about orgasms. like that one has never been done before. I’m sure that’s what at least some of you are thinking. But don’t go writing me off already before I have even had a chance to speak my peace.
Not everyone can be a “G,” but everyone has one. A g-spot, that is. For males it is technically the prostate gland, which can be stimulated through contact with the perineum, the skin between the base of the penis and the anus. For females, the g-spot is located on the upper inside of the vaginal wall on the front. Through stimulation with this spot on each specific individual it can lead to a much stronger, more intense orgasm.
Orgasms generally leave individuals with a specific case of “symptoms” that represent a bodily release of sexual tension, allowing your body to return to pre-sexual arousal stages. Some common reactions with orgasms are contractions of different parts of the body, such as the penis, prostate gland, anus or vagina. Other reactions include, but aren’t limited to: changes in breathing, body vibrations, a feeling of warmth throughout your body or sweating.
One of the most common reactions to an orgasm, especially for women, is the need to cry out or moan, thus the typical joke about someone being a screamer. This can serve as a reminder; letting out a little moan every now and again not only encourages a partner to continue, it also reminds us that people can be rather perceptive even in the heat of the moment, so faking shouldn’t be a viable option. This goes for you men too; make some noise every now and again to show your pleasure and appreciation.
Orgasms are quite possibly one of the greatest, most amazing physical feelings one can experience. But sometimes, sometimes, too much emphasis is placed on them. Take, for instance, the woman’s bible, also known as “Cosmopolitan.” I don’t think I could actively count how many articles it references on how to have explosive orgasms, or mind-bending orgasms or out-of-this-world orgasms.
Also, not every orgasm is ready-made for a porn movie. Some are subtler than the g-spot, ejaculation-induced orgasm, often questioned if it were even an orgasm at all. And while it is not very comforting to one’s partner in these occasions that you just don’t know whether or not you’ve experienced an orgasm, it brings up the point that it is just important to know your own body.
Looking at the statistics, we see that males are capable of achieving orgasm almost 100 percent of the time. However, the same does not hold true for women. In his article “Sex Stats,” Al Link states that at least 70 percent of women do not reach orgasm through intercourse alone. So let’s think about this. 100 percent of the time versus a possible 30 percent of the time. Doesn’t quite seem fair now does it? Because of this though, we could learn not to solely focus on penetration, but also on foreplay.
What’s wrong with just pleasure every so often? Personally, I say nothing. I don’t think that orgasm should always be an ultimate goal during sex. If you do reach it, there won’t be much complaining, but sometimes it’s important to focus on being in the moment and enjoying yourself, whatever that moment might lead to. Be open to different experiences, get to know your own body and its reactions and don’t put so much emphasis on orgasm or let the stress of trying to reach it get to you. Then, if you reach the “I’ll have what she’s having” “When Harry Met Sally” moment, it will be that much more enjoyable. Have fun and stay safe! Have a happy Thanksgiving and remember that when you’re feeling perky you should wrap your turkey!
Melissa Norman is a psychology senior and Mustang Daily sex columnist. You can contact her at cpbetweenthesheets@gmail.com.