It may be the middle of winter, but some Cal Poly students are suffering from dehydration. Not due to a lack of water, but because of a personal love drought. It is true that everyone has their down times.
Maybe you’ve just been spending a lot of solo nights in your Snuggie at home. Sometimes you just can’t find anyone to smooch at a party, text inappropriate things to late at night, or ask to a movie (because it’s just kind of weird to go alone). In order to find someone to kiss or knock boots with, you must play the game right.
However, in your attempt to get back in the game, you have to be careful not to overdo it. Nothing reeks of loneliness like bathing in Abercrombie cologne and shoving fruity drinks at innocent partygoers. And nothing says desperate more than wearing a shirt bordering on a wardrobe malfunction. Remember, breaking a dry spell means you need to attract people, not repel them. Showing you’re available in order to end a sexual slump is totally understandable, but use some tact. You need to be the cutest, nicest version of yourself.
Now, while being the best version of yourself, make sure to surround yourself with a similarly amazing crowd. I’m not recommending going out with only attractive friends, because that may inadvertently make you look less attractive. I’m saying to go out with people who know your intentions: to get some. This means, don’t go out with an ex or some awkward former hook-up and expect to meet someone new. This type of company is a buzz kill. You will either be distracted by their presence or your night will be monopolized by conversation about ‘what could have been.’ The ideal situation is to go out with close friends, specifically those of your same sex.
Bringing opposite sex friends along may be fun, but you have to be careful; you don’t accidentally ward off welcome company. Same-sex friends are ideal, because whether or not you meet someone you’ll probably still have a great time. Also, everyone needs to remember liquor is a frenemy (friend/enemy).
Sure, you and alcohol are friends when you are only a few drinks in, you’re confident, possibly even funnier, but drink with caution. That frenemy booze is waiting to screw you like a friend that hooks up with your ex. You’re dancing one drink and falling the next.
No one wants to listen to you slur, stare into your drunken lazy eyes or risk being the one to get you water while you puke. So whatever you are searching for, pick the appropriate weapons to lure in your object of desire. No matter how long you’ve gone without someone, regardless if it’s a kiss, date or sex, being with a person just to get some isn’t going to help.
Well, maybe it will make you feel a little better, but you would feel a lot better if the next day you realized that the you were seen with the night before was awesome or way hot. Being at least semi-interested in your fortunate partner means that you may have an opportunity to get a second shot with this person.
Maybe then you can ditch your Snuggie or at least prevent a second dry spell.
Denise Nilan is a journalism senior and the Mustang Daily’s new sex columnist.