Isn’t it funny how romantic couples decide they need a “break” from one another? It is sort of amazing how someone could want a relationship, and claim they love a person, but than decide they need to go on a break for a period of time just to test the relationship.
Isn’t the whole point of a break to get away from your significant other for whatever amount of time, and wouldn’t that signify that you are having problems, or maybe even that the relationship should be over?
Couples often defend this concept of a break by saying, “We just need time to figure things out,” but in all honesty, maybe the relationship just isn’t meant to be. And not only that, but why do you have to go on this “break” at all?
It seems a little over dramatic to be “on a break.” Sure, you may just need some alone time, but by putting this title on it, you’re making it more difficult for yourself and your partner.
The title and amount of time isn’t the only issue with the break concept. Another issue is the rules that people form for their so-called “break,” which make this period much more ridiculous .
There are rules such as, you are allowed to date other people, but you’re not allowed to sleep with them. Or you can’t date at all; it should only be a time to think.
In reality, if either partner is contemplating dating other people, the relationship really shouldn’t exist in the first place.
Another way people try to justify their break experience is that they’ve met someone else who they believe might be a better fit for them, or they just want to mess around a little. You know, get that college experience. But the reality of it is that people, both men and women think about messing around with other people all the time, but actually wanting to follow through with that act should feel completely wrong if you’re truly in love with your partner.
Furthermore, if you’re thinking about going on a break to see if it would be possible to live without this significant other, then there are bigger issues to deal with, and it seems a bit unfair to your partner to put their emphasis in your life on trial.
I have seen many couples go through this break up and get back together trend. It turns into one of those annoying relationships that has everyone turned off to dating completely.
It only seems like the best of both worlds: you could go out and mess around, and then after you’re done with that, you could come back to this person who is just waiting for you. In reality, that type of setup is poisonous for everyone involved. No matter the case, with any type of “break,” someone gets hurt.
Here are a few hints that should alert you to an impending break:
1. The relationship has become distant.
2. Little fights break out over nothing.
3. You find yourself wondering if there are other fish in the sea.
4. Avoiding one another becomes a regular occurrence.
A break might help to temporarily avoid problems or it might even get that one-night-stand with that hot girl from the gym out of the way. In the end, though, when you return to that relationship, the dynamic will have changed, the problems will still be there and you will likely find that a permanent break-up is in your future.